Days Go By

Our days are meant to be trivial. There's a full 24 hours to each day and I find that they might get boring if they were consistently the same. Of course, I'm not a fan of the day full of constant horribleness but a day with a few interesting turns is never a day wasted. You can start your morning on the wrong side of the bed but by afternoon be a ray of sunshine. Your attitude is your choice, anything else that you think constitutes that is false. So truly the triviality of our everyday lies not in what comes at us but in what we give out. To sound completely cheesy, give out the best of things: hugs, laughter, smiles and a positive attitude. I know it sounds corny but just keeping a smile on your face and walking with a little bounce in your step isn't some form of perky, its an enlightened state of mind. Your trueness should be your happiest-ness, anything outside of that is negative and false. The trivial things of everyday make that trueness hard to stand by sometimes, but its way better being happy than not. So instead of getting frustrated that you just walked across campus, realized you left your computer charger and have to go back, don't get all grumpy about it. Its another opportunity to walk in the sunshine.

In terms of relationships, don't let what your relationship has become or where it is going erase what your relationship has always been. Really, don't think about your relationship at all. You chose that other person for a reason, and its all about them and you. When you look at the bond, you lose the parts, just like if you look at the bad you lose the good.

Here's to you baby and keepin' the good times rollin'.

Storybooks

sometimes all it takes is the threat of the story ending to put it back to the beginning again.

The middle chapters disappear and suddenly its a new story.

A change in your life doesn't have to be the 'start of a new chapter' because your life doesn't have to be one big long story.

A teacher once said to me history has no beginning and no end, its simply a bunch of middles.

The same can be applied to life.

Your stories don't have to start or end, and chapters dont have to be finalized

Just keep on moving and the pages will turn and soon you'll forget the pages even exist.

Life isn't marked by a start and a finish at any point in time. Life is an endless narrative and we're neither narrator nor character nor viewer. We get to be all of them while being none of them.

So close the books and leave them in libraries. Go outside and take a look at the sky without thinking about anything. I bet you forgot how fascinating of a thing it is to wonder why the sky is blue.

No more answers, no more chapters, because all chapters end with a resolution. Let's keep this story going with all the wonder there can be.

No Such Thing as Nothing

So often arguments can start and things can get over looked over the "nothing" bug, that tiny little gnat in your attitude that causes you to reply "nothing" to any question asked. I find that a relationship can be much easier when the "nothing bug" is exterminated. What that really translates to is on simple rule: don't lie.

It seems complicated right? How could a person, especially in a relationship, be honest all the time? You just simply do it. If the person you are with truly loves you and is in the relationship to know and love you, then no fact, feeling, opinion, situation or compromise could possibly change that.

We are but human beings with baggage, hormones, and preexisting assumptions. Its not our fault when things get hazy. What is our fault is our lack of ability to slice through the haze and find the love. If love is true, nearly all can be forgiven. I emphasize love being true. If you doubt your love for a second, not being able to get past things is a sure sign of legitimacy for that doubt. But, if you trust your love, if your love is true, not a thing exists that you cannot understand and move past. And let me just mention, this must go both ways. Love and relationships absolutely can NOT be a game of who did what, when and why. If love cannot be measured than neither can your relationship.

If at the end of the day you can look into the face of your partner and despite the fights, tears, arguments and things that may have happened find that you're just as prepared for what will come tomorrow- I personally think you are in good stead.

Avoid at all cost preexisting judgments and personal baggage getting in the way of love- simply acknowledge, analyze and move on with the powerful positivity in the presence of your relationship.

Here's to you, Baby.

In Memory

In memory things can be lost

In memory things can be transformed, translated, transparent, transported

In memory things can be forgotten

In memory things can be changed

In memory, though, things can be remembered

For that is memory's purpose.

Often times it seems memory only serves to haunt, but its serves to remind.

And today I was reminded of You. Remember last summer, our first times alone, had no money so we watched movies at home? Dinner at 8 movie at ten, get high, go home, and do it again. Playing in the rain, making out till dawn, doing anything to avoid a yawn. So fresh so new so ready to go, my world was spinning but time was slow and its been creeping but flying past when you're in love things move too fast but what a story we have to share, starting in that summer when we didn't care. What a story, what a life we lead. Sometimes memory is all you need.

In memory things can be restored

In memory my love for you is evermore

In memory love can never die

In memory, eternally,

You and I.

Unconditional Love

You have your good days and you have your bad days. Some of the time it can be dealt with, some of the time it cannot. So what's the one thing that keeps us going, keeps us all in some kind of balance? Unconditional love. In my highest of highs or lowest of lows, Mark loves me unconditionally.

His optimism and positivity blows my mind when I'm not on that same level. I'm seeing things like this: everyday since I've seen you is the longer I don't see you. He's sees it like this: everyday since I've seen you is one day closer to the next time I do. How simple is that?

The little things in life that take away from the really important things in life snowball quicker than imaginable sometimes. You just have to keep the faith and stay positive. Mark has extreme faith in us and I do too. And he's always there to remind me. Life moves pretty fast you know and if you don't stop once in a while you might miss it. Whenever I need to stop, Mark's right there, frozen in time. A time in the future when all we've needed to do is done, all we've had to get through is gone through, and we will be together and it will be permanent and as Mark said tonight, "by that time it will be perfect".

So here's to the promise of perfection, or a lifetime of achieving it. And instead of thinking about the fact that it may never be 'perfect', here's to each moment being more perfect than the last. Here's to positivity, unconditional love, friendship and trust. Here's to us, baby, but mostly here's to You.